Father’s Day is often a time for family and celebration, but for separated or divorced parents, it may also bring emotional strain and logistical challenges. Helen Clyne in our family law and divorce team provides six practical tips to help make Father’s Day smoother and more meaningful.
As a family lawyer and mediator, I often advise clients who are struggling to make plans with their ex-partner for Father’s Day, often because it involves renegotiating contact arrangements that are already in place.
The good news is that with a little flexibility and forward planning, it’s possible to reduce conflict and create a more positive experience for everyone involved, especially the children.
- Be flexible with your parenting arrangements
If your current parenting schedule doesn’t include time with Dad on Father’s Day, don’t panic. Parenting plans are living documents—they can and should evolve to reflect the needs of the family. Similarly, Child Arrangements Orders always have a clause that gives the parties to the court order the option to change the arrangements by agreement.
Even if it’s a last-minute request, a simple swap or a few hours together can make a big difference. Courts and mediators alike encourage flexibility around special occasions like Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, birthdays, and holidays.
Family mediation can be a helpful tool to agree on one-off changes without needing to return to court.
- Accept that family dynamics evolve
As children grow and family structures change, so too must parenting arrangements. New partners, blended families, and shifting routines are all part of modern family life.
I’ve worked with families where children wish to divide Father’s Day between a biological father and a stepfather. While this can be emotionally complex, it’s important to remember that your role in your child’s life remains significant.
- Use family mediation when communication breaks down
If direct communication with your co-parent is strained or unproductive, family mediation offers a neutral, structured environment to work through disagreements.
A trained family mediator can help both parents focus on practical, child-centred solutions, without the stress and cost of court proceedings.
- Always prioritise the children
Ask yourself: what would make this day most meaningful for your children? Whether it’s spending time with dad, visiting grandparents, or including a step-parent, the focus should be on their emotional wellbeing, not adult disputes.
Whether you have an hour or the whole day, be present. Put away distractions, engage in activities your children enjoy, and create lasting memories.
- Plan ahead for the future
If Father’s Day is difficult this year, reflect on why that is and how you could make sure it is different next year. Consider incorporating special occasions, including Mother’s Day, into your parenting plan or seeking family mediation to establish clearer expectations for the future.
Remember, your relationship with your children is built over time, not just on one day.
Final thoughts
Father’s Day doesn’t have to be a battleground. With empathy, flexibility, and a child-focused approach, separated parents can navigate this day with greater ease and respect. If you’re struggling to reach an agreement, don’t hesitate to seek professional support – help is available, and you don’t have to face it alone.
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